“In the very small moments, the world can seem marvelous, because we actually have a chance to notice.” – Susan Sachs Lipman, Fed Up with Frenzy
One of the things I love most about being outside in nature is that time seems to slow down. We’re never in a rush or distracted. The journey takes center focus and we’re less worried about the ultimate destination. Just being together is enough.
Ever wonder how to get that same feeling in your everyday life?
In today’s fast-paced society, it’s not always easy. Which is why I’m so excited to have been able to ask an expert for some advice.
Susan Sachs Lipman is the author of Fed Up with Frenzy, a how-to guide for slowing down and creating more distraction-free time with your kids.
The 362-page book is set up in easy-to-read, bite-sized chapters filled with simple, affordable ideas, crafts and activities that can help you slow down and reconnect with your family. Chapters include: Slow Activities, Slow Games, Slow Crafts, Slow Kitchen, Slow Garden, Slow Nature, Slow Seasons, Slow Celebrations, Slow Travel, and Everyday Slow.
Susan (aka “Suz”) was one of the first people I met when I started this blog. She’s one busy woman – serving as the social media director for the Children & Nature Network and keeping up her award-winning blog, Slow Family Online. Oh yeah, and she’s a wife and mom to boot.
I couldn’t wait to pick her brain for some top-notch advice on bringing calm into the chaos that is so often our life.
Can you explain what slow living means for those who might not be familiar with the term?
Many trace the Slow Movement to Italy and Slow Food, which came about as a response to quickly prepared and consumed fast food. Lots of “Slow” movements followed, the idea behind most of them being to live in a conscious way.
For me, Slow Parenting is not about moving at a snail’s pace, but rather about doing things at a pace that is right for the family, and that pace may change on any given day.
How are slow living and spending time in nature connected?
Increased time in nature is usually a happy bi-product of slow family living. Nature works wonders on many levels – it offers a host of physical and psychological benefits, and provides opportunities for free play, which is essential for children. It also allows kids to experience wonder and awe, to observe other life forms and the changing seasons. Meaningful family bonding tends to happen in nature, too, because nature moves at a slower pace than most of our everyday lives.
I know many parents think that having their children involved in multiple extracurricular activities enriches their lives. How is doing less actually good for kids?
More and more studies are coming out that are showing that kids actually need play time, down time, family time and time in nature for their intellectual, social, emotional and physical growth. While extracurricular activities are terrific in moderation, well-meaning parents tend to overdo them, thinking that they’re necessary to help children get ahead. As a result, a lot of kids miss out on the important family bonding that comes from down time and play, which we’re being told produces the very traits in children that lead to their success – resilience, optimism, confidence, empathy, and even enhanced academic performance.
What advice would you give to someone brand new to the idea of slow living? What first step can families take toward slow living?
I would suggest making one small change. Perhaps spend 15 minutes after dinner taking a family walk around the neighborhood, or spend a weekend hour in a playground or park, playing games. Instead of rushing through dinner prep, take a few minutes longer and let your children help with age-appropriate tasks. They’ll really value the time together and they’ll learn some life skills.
What’s your favorite way to connect with nature with your family?
I had the fortune of gardening with my parents, and I passed that love on to my daughter. Even when she was very young, she had her own spot in our balcony garden (proving you don’t need a big garden) and she picked and cared for her own vegetables and flowers. We like to choose plants that attract butterflies, and make feeders for birds. We also love to hike as a family, to explore the wild spaces not far from our home. Gentle trail walks leave a lot of time for observation of the natural world and also for talking and playing the kinds of word games that have become beloved traditions.
My advice? Add Fed Up with Frenzy to your reading list – it retails for less than $15. You can also connect with Suz at her blog Slow Family Living and on Twitter.
I’m thrilled to be able to provide a FREE copy to one lucky reader. You interested?
To enter, leave a comment sharing one way you’d like to slow down your life. Good luck!
- This giveaway will run through midnight PST on Sun., Sept. 16, 2012.
- You must include an email address with your comment. Entries without an email address will not be included.
- This giveaway is open to U.S. residents only.
- The winners will be chosen using the nifty random number generator at random.org.
- Winners will have 24 hours to reply to my notification. If I don’t hear back after that, I’ll pick another winner.
Note: I received a free copy of Fed Up with Frenzy in exchange for providing my honest review with you. Read my full disclosure policy for more information.
Justin says
I can think of too many reasons to slow down. My long drive to work. The awesome time we had fishing yesterday. This 5 days we work so hard only to have 2 days off to spend with our family. Time flies.
Amelia says
Whoops nt sure if I answered the question…. I would like to slow down the amount of commitments I make to others and focus on my family more!
Mountain Mama says
Way to Un-Plug!!! That is awesome!! 🙂
Mountain Mama says
Oh man…..I really really really need to slow down and READ THIS BOOK!!!! Thanks for a great review – will keep my fingers (quickly??? ;)) crossed for this one!!!<br />mountainmamatales(at)gmail(dot)com
AdventureBee says
Its a fine line we always walk between being go-go-go family and a slow family. We are always looking for ways to put the breaks on over-demanding and over-scheduling our lives. One of the ways in which we "slow down" is by leaving electronics behind or in other rooms and turning off the radio when we drive. <br /><br />In fact, when we did a 4000 mile road trip over 7 states last
Karin says
I love this concept! As my kids get older, I'm tempted to enroll them in more and more activities, and then I get roped into volunteering more and more. I miss the preschool days when we would just go out exploring more. I need a balance! karners@sbcglobal.net
Mel says
We've been reading this, too, and loving all the fun (slow) activities. If anyone needs to slow down it's me!
Sere says
I love going out with my son and wandering around the woods, just checking things out, to slow down in our life. My family has a nature walk tradition that started with my dad, who passed it on to me and my brothers and I am now passing it on to my son. When we go walking in the woods, we always try to find the downed trees that cross a gully or creek and we "log walk" across them. I
Danielle @52 Brand New says
Great interview! I am reading that book right now and love it. Well, the author might be preaching to the choir with me, but I am proud to be a part of the same choir!
Anonymous says
I would like to learn how to slow down when I'm at home with my twin three-year-olds. I always feel rushed constantly with cooking, cleaning, activities, working out, etc. Need to find the right pace. And you couldn't be more right, the more I'm outside, the more relaxed I am. Wish I could bring that inside the home too. johnson.kerry@yahoo.com
Ivy Hazlett says
Love this! One way I'd like to slow down my life is by learning in the moment. I'm a busy newlywed college student with a part-time job, so it's easy to get caught up in the length of my to-do list and rush from one thing to the next, always looking ahead to the next assignment. I think that if I slow down, I will be better able to absorb what I'm learning. I also struggle with
Val @ Bonbon Break says
Oh geez. You just got me in a raw spot. Slow time is something I so desperately need with my kids. It is why I live on an island. It is why we have chosen the lifestyle we have, but since I started the magazine, I feel like it is slipping away. I would LOVE to win a free copy so I could be intentional about slowing down when it comes to my kids. I was just reading another blogger's post about